Texture Tuesday – Dedicated to My Friends in Need

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(Above image from Mindfulbalance.org)

Sometimes in our busy lives we just need to P-A-U-S-E. Today is one of those days. I just returned from a wonderful, but busy Dallas Market, seeing old friends, making new ones, and sharing my passion for pillow design with Deborah Main Designs at The Doris Sanders showroom. And I will soon share many photos and exciting adventures with you next week, but this week’s #TextureTuesday is dedicated to two of my friends in need.

Because right in the midst of market I was taken aback by two of my designer friends being blindsided by sudden, life-altering illnesses.

The first, Christian May, is the talented interior designer behind Maison 21.  Well known and published for his striking designs, Christian had to have sudden back surgery and woke up paralyzed from the neck down.

Shocking to say the least, how one day you have one life, and another day it’s completely different. But we all know this to be true, we just don’t publicly talk about it much. But it DOES happen. And it DID happen to my friends Christian, and, for a very different reason, now Linda.

Christian faces an insurmountable task of trying to find his way through this to a complete recovery.  A fund was set up for him and you can donate HERE. to help us reach $25,000. He is a tough but gentle soul and I know with your help and all the support he has, he will recover!

Christian May

Photography courtesy of Christian May.

The second, is sweet Linda Holt, of Linda Holt Interiors,  also a talented interior designer, and a fabulous blogger, photographer, color expert and fellow blog mate from Modenus Blog Tours. And she needs your support and prayers too to fully recover!

This one is hard for me to talk about. It affects me personally since my mother died from breast cancer at age 71, and Linda is so very young and in the prime of her career.  And, to be honest,  I’m just angry, sad, and heart-broken that my dear friend Linda has breast cancer and has to go through this. Cancer is just so unfair!

So, I’m going to let Linda do the talking, because she articulates her shock and pain so authentically in her blog post below. Because it is REAL! It is happening right now to Linda!!.

I have Linda’s permission to share her raw, unedited truthful blog with you today. Please read it and share it, as you never know who’s life it will save!

Believe it or not, I haven’t met either of my friends in real life (#IRL), but I feel close to them in ways that is hard to describe. But that’s the blessing of social media.  You make friends from around the world and when you do finally get the luxury of meeting in real life (#IRL) you feel like you’ve known them for years! I also happen to be part of a very close knit, incredibly supportive group of amazing design bloggers through Modenus and the world of Blog Tours and also through an online Interior Design Community.

I am blessed beyond words to have these friendships!  They’ve expanded my horizon and enriched my life infinitely.  And perhaps that’s why it breaks my heart to have anything happen to any of my dear friends.

I am not surprised by the outpouring of support for the witty and charming Christian, and for Linda, a salt-of-the-earth kind of friend who is talented, funny, and sincere beyond words. Both of these kind souls are dear to my heart and in my prayers daily!

Their struggle is very real and will be challenging. But I have every confidence that with the feisty spirit in each of these AMAZING individuals, that they will both fully recover.

And as Linda says, below in her blog post, “Enjoy the little things my friends and whatever you do, don’t put off those yearly screening tests!”

Family and friends are what matter most in life. And our health is of the utmost urgency to be mindful and take care of. In fact, that is why my husband and I decided on the spur of the moment, that THIS summer (in the midst of remodeling) we are taking our 19 year old daughter to Italy. Because life IS short, and we need to savor every minute of it with those we love.

PAUSE to read Linda’s blog below, and to be with those you love dearly my friends!  Till next time, XO PG

Linda Holt. Photography courtesy of Linda Holt Interiors.

Linda Holt. Photography courtesy of Linda Holt Interiors.

 Didn’t see this coming (Written by Linda Holt of Linda Holt Interiors.  Below is the complete blog post written by Linda, but you can also read it directly on Linda’s blog HERE)

“Didn’t See This Coming

Fair warning: This post is long, completely personal and has absolutely nothing to do with design, decorating, color or trends.

Life as we all know is a cycle of both good times and not so good times. Just recently I was thinking about how at the moment I was in one of the good times. Everything is going so well both with my business and my personal life. My kids are “launched”, busy creating a business of their own, living in Boston and supporting themselves. My husband is employed at a job he likes and has the flexibility to work at home. I have what I consider the world’s best friends and I could not ask for better clients. I have the amount of design projects that feels just right and I was invited on two different BlogTours with Modenus and the awesome Veronika Miller. I had the time of my life on both trips and met some of the most inspiring creative people who I am blessed to say are now my friends. Yup, everything was more or less perfect.

Then in an instant my life was completely derailed. Three weeks ago I was blindsided with a diagnosis of invasive breast Cancer….wait what??? I’ve always been the healthy one. I have been eating “clean” since before it was even a thing. I exercise (at least I try to), I’ve never smoked and I do my best to keep stress to a minimum.  I feel great so this must be a mistake, besides, I’m way too busy to deal with Cancer. My mind flashes to two friends, both who died in their 30’s from breast cancer, both leaving toddlers without a mom. I think of my friend Christine who is currently fighting metastatic breast cancer. I think of my Dad who died a slow painful death from lung Cancer exactly 25 years ago this week at the young age of 62, and my Mom who died 17 years later from an equally terrible struggle with brain Cancer. I think, am I going to die? This will destroy my family.  I feel like I can’t breath, I feel sick, I cry.

On the drive home I think about all the things I still want to do. I have never been to Italy, I want to go back to Barcelona and I want to visit Berlin. I want to attend Maison and Objet in Paris and swim in Caribbean waters again. I want to visit London and I want to tour the wineries in Sonoma.  I want to go back to High Point with my friends Kim, Kelly, Casey and Jeffery and see all my long distance designer friends. The list adds up and I realize there is so much I want to do. I HAVE to beat this. I will beat this.

I tell my husband, I tell my boys, I tell my close friends.

We meet with the surgeon a few days later. She is calming and very reassuring. She stresses that my Cancer is small and that I am extremely lucky it was caught early. My Cancer is stage 1 (on a scale of 1-4). The initially pathology report from the needle biopsy shows it is a type 2 Cancer (on a scale of 1-3). Not great, but thank God it is not a 3. As long as my margins and lymph nodes are clear I will not need chemotherapy, only radiation.

I try and stay as busy and distracted as possible waiting for the surgery but the word Cancer, becomes an all present loud voice in my head. I am checking out at Whole Foods and the perky 20 something cashier smiles and asks “how are you today”? I smile back just as perky and say “fine thanks”… the voice inside my head screams “I HAVE CANCER!”. I am at the bank making a deposit and the teller asks, “Anything else I can do for you today?” I smile back, “Nope, all set”. The voice screams “YEAH, CAN YOU CURE MY CANCER?”

I had the surgery two weeks ago and the news was the best it could be. Both the margins and the lymph nodes were clear. No chemo needed!!! I tell EVERYONE the good news. My husband brings home champagne, the boys come with my son’s girlfriend. We all celebrate. I feel like I have dodged a bullet. I don’t need to go public with the news because I know radiation won’t be fun but it will have minimal impact on my life and business. I have four days of bliss thinking I am in the clear.

Then we meet with the Oncologist. She is very sorry to have to tell me some unexpected bad news. The final pathology report comes back and the Cancer I have (had) is clearly type 3 (fast growing highly aggressive form).  I need chemo, I will go bald, I will be tired, I will be sick, I will be a Cancer patient. For the second time in just two and a half weeks I feel completely blindsided.  I can’t breath, I feel sick, I cry. This time the news seems even more devastating because I had already told EVERYONE the good news. I can’t bring myself to tell anyone the new bad news. I slowly tell people, everyone is shocked and sad.

In ten days I have Pre-Chemo “class” (I find this quit humorous because I always describe myself as a life long learner). I start treatment a few days after that. It seems somewhat surreal because I feel so healthy yet in just a couple weeks I will be bald, tired and sick. After twelve weeks of Chemo I will then have 6 weeks of daily radiation treatments. It will be almost the holidays until I’m done. I have no idea how I will feel since everyone reacts differently to chemo. My Oncologist says she has patients in their 30’s that can barely get off the couch and patients in their 70’s who hardly miss a beat.

My intention is to stay positive and work as much as possible. My friends, family, and clients have been and are, incredibly supportive. I cut my hair short(er) in preparation of what is to come. I am working like a fiend getting some painting, cleaning and house projects finished before chemo begins. I’m already scheming about how I can turn chemo treatments into a design related blog post. It will be interesting to see what colors they use in the treatment room, hopefully they are uplifting.

So my friends, my next step is a trip with my good friend and wardrobe stylist Susan Kanoff to pick out a wig. I’m thinking “short and sassy” might be a good look for me.

short and sassy

But then again…life is short!

3-women-wigsEnjoy the little things my friends and whatever you do, don’t put off those yearly screening tests!”

 

 

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